Is experiencing our own hurt the gateway to perception as human beings?
Every day we hear stories of personal suffering and loss that far exceed our own. When we compare our situations to those of people living in war-torn countries or those who have lost their homes and livelihoods to natural disasters, it is tempting to minimize our own experiences of suffering. We may feel that we don’t have a right to be upset about the breakup of a relationship, for example, because at least we have food to eat and a roof over our heads.
Our internal systems become clogged with our unexpressed emotions. This in no way helps other people who are suffering in the world.
In fact, it may do just the opposite because when we devalue our own experience, we become impervious to the sorrow in others.